Man Wants to Require Sex in Prenup – SheKnows

When you hear the word prenup, you might automatically think of celebrities or wealthy couples. And it’s true that those are the people who usually make the news for their prenuptial agreements — like the “airtight” prenup Britney Spears and Sam Asghari signed before their 2022 wedding, or Kelly Clarkson’s prenup-related legal mess after her divorce from Brandon Blackstock. If you ask Khloé Kardashian, everyone should have a prenup, “You have to protect yourself. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them,” she told E! News back in 2011 … before her divorce from Lamar Odom.

Not everyone is taking Kardashian’s advice, though. According to a 2023 survey by Axios, only 1 in 5 married couples in the US have a prenup, although 50 percent of the adults they surveyed said they at least somewhat supported them.

While you can ask for just about anything in a prenup, your partner doesn’t necessarily have to agree to your suggestions, especially if they’re… unhinged. That’s where one couple on Reddit is running into some trouble, and trust us, “unhinged” is putting it lightly in this case.

OP explains that before their relationship, their boyfriend had been in a “terrible marriage that ended in a dead bedroom” (aka no sex). “He’s determined to never go back to that life again,” says OP, who adds that they can understand the feeling. “I think that sucked for him to experience.”

However, OP’s sympathy only goes so far. Now their boyfriend wants a prenup and wants to include a specific clause stipulating “that we will have sex x amount of times a week, or else I get absolutely nothing in the divorce.”

OP says they’d already agreed to a 50-50 prenup in terms of splitting up marital assets, and agreed that they each keep whatever they came into the marriage with. “Now that’s not enough for him,” OP writes. “He wants me to ‘prove’ that I won’t stop having sex with him in the future. I tell him I can’t prove the future, and putting something in writing doesn’t prove that.”

Now OP’s boyfriend is saying OP “must have a guilty conscience if I won’t sign these terms, because if I’m so certain it won’t happen, then what’s the problem?”

OP shared their experience to Reddit’s Am I the Asshole? forum to figure out who’s in the wrong. “I honestly can’t believe I’m asking this, but my boyfriend has gotten so mad that I’m feeling a little crazy now,” they write.