Feeling burnt out, overworked, underpaid, and anxious? Struggling to lose weight, lacking energy, and wishing you could be a better partner and parent? It’s time to shift your focus from external fixes to real self-care. Forget the quick fixes like expensive skin-care routines, massages, or vacations – these are just band-aids that don’t address the root of your burnout.
In her book, Can’t Even, Anne Helen Peterson sheds light on the concept of “faux self-care.” This is the idea that we can solve our problems by simply indulging in temporary escapes, chasing achievements, or optimizing our lives. But the truth is, true self-care goes beyond these superficial fixes.
Dr. Pooja Lakshmin explains that real self-care involves setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, aligning with your core values, and standing up for your needs. It’s about doing the internal work to address the root causes of your burnout, rather than just seeking external solutions.
Ultimately, real self-care is about being vulnerable, having uncomfortable conversations, and making deliberate choices that prioritize your well-being. It’s a process of self-discovery and growth that requires honesty, acceptance, and a willingness to make changes for yourself and others.
So, instead of looking for quick fixes or external validations, focus on real self-care practices that empower you to take control of your well-being. Start by setting boundaries, being kind to yourself, aligning with your values, and standing up for your needs. This is the true path to self-care that will help you navigate through burnout and find fulfillment in your life.
