The time I spent at Grandma Ida’s farmhouse are some of my most treasured memories. I have always had a special bond with my grandmother, but a few years ago, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, a disease that affects a person’s thinking, communication, and memory. Despite what I’ve been told, I decided to visit her at the nursing home where she now lives once a week this summer.
Contrary to what others have said, I can tell that Grandma recognizes me and responds to my presence with all her heart. Despite her memory loss, she still remembers elements from her early life, such as her joyful childhood on the family farm. When I ask her about her experiences growing up, her eyes light up with an unmistakable recognition.
While I’ve been told that she may not remember family members or enjoy activities, I have found that she recognizes faces from old photographs and loves spending time planting flowers with me. She may not be able to sing and dance as she used to, but with the right music and a gentle guiding hand, she can still find joy in the rhythm and melody.
Instead of focusing on what she cannot do, I have discovered ways to connect with her and make her feel loved and valued. Whether it’s giving her a hand massage, doing her hair the way she likes it, cooking her favorite meals, or engaging in simple activities like painting, she appreciates these gestures more than I could have imagined.
I have also learned to communicate with her in a way that makes her feel comfortable and understood. I refrain from correcting her when she says something that doesn’t make sense, and instead, empathize with her and validate her feelings.
I have found that she may repeat questions and require written reminders, but it’s all part of easing her worries and making her feel secure and supported. These small gestures go a long way in brightening her day and reinforcing our bond.
Moreover, I have brought my little brother and our dog to visit her, despite being advised against it. To my surprise, it has brought her immense joy and laughter.
Over the course of my visits, I’ve discovered that Grandma Ida’s spirit continues to shine through, and she is always there for those who take the time to be with her. While her mind may not be the same as before, her essence and the love we share remain constant.
