Last week, I had the opportunity to fly to Massachusetts to visit my amazing 94-year-old grandmother in the hospital. Let me share a bit about this remarkable woman. Known as Barbara, Auntie B, or Gramma to her grandkids, she was born in 1930 to first-generation Newfoundlanders. With her roots deeply ingrained in Newfoundland culture, it’s no wonder that I have a love for the music of Alan Doyle (and Great Big Sea) – it’s in my DNA!
Gramma dedicated 22 years of her life to teaching preschool and has been an active member in her community for as long as I can remember. She was a talented quilter and spearheaded numerous quilting initiatives over the years. She volunteered at the Council on Aging and even delivered meals for Meals on Wheels well into her 80s.
During past visits to Massachusetts, I would make a quick stop at Gramma’s, often preoccupied with trivial thoughts and distracted by my phone. It felt as if I had taken her presence for granted, assuming she would always be there. However, a Japanese concept called ichi-go ichi-e changed my perspective and transformed my recent visits with Gramma.
Ichi-go ichi-e translates to “one time, one meeting” and emphasizes the importance of treasuring each unique moment. It serves as a reminder to be fully present and appreciate each interaction as if it were the only one. By implementing this concept during my visits with Gramma, I was able to deepen our bond and learn so much more about her.
Despite the circumstances of her being in the hospital, Gramma’s room was always filled with a revolving door of guests – family, friends, and community members who came to show their love and support. Witnessing the impact she had on so many lives was truly awe-inspiring. It reaffirmed the notion that a life lived with selflessness and love is a life well lived.
During one of my visits, I took a peaceful stroll around Walden Pond, reflecting on Henry David Thoreau’s words about living deliberately. I realized that, much like Thoreau, Gramma prioritized what truly mattered to her – family, friends, and community. Both experiences reinforced the importance of living intentionally and cherishing the relationships and moments that define our lives.
As I continue to learn from Gramma and honor her wisdom, I am reminded of Gandalf’s words to Frodo – “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” Let us all strive to live more deliberately, be present with those we love, and cherish each moment as if it were the only one.
