The tides have shifted away from the damaging body-shaming practices of the early aughts. Supporting characters in sitcoms no longer bear the brunt of unamusing “fat” jokes. Celebrities aren’t constantly criticized in the media for their weight. Diet culture has simmered down, but body talk hasn’t stopped completely. It’s now disguised as compliments, something Nohemi Lopez, RDN, a registered dietitian nutritionist, has observed while working with people recovering from eating disorders.
Receiving body-related comments can be harmful, even if they are meant to be positive. A survey found that 57 percent of Gen Z and Millennial individuals receive appearance-related comments weekly, leading to concerns about their appearance just as frequently. Statements like “You look incredible!” or “You’re so skinny!” can actually worsen body image and increase the risk of eating disorders and depression.
Without knowing the reasons behind someone’s weight or size change, compliments can be damaging. Praising weight loss without understanding the methods used can reinforce harmful behaviors and lead to serious concerns like eating disorders. Individuals in larger bodies with eating disorders, like atypical anorexia, may be praised for rapid weight loss, which is unhealthy.
Complimenting appearance, no matter the intention, can create pressure and imply that physical appearance is the most important thing. Survivors of eating disorders or assault, individuals with larger bodies, and marginalized communities are most at risk of the negative effects of body talk. These beauty standards often exclude people who don’t fit the white, thin, young ideal.
Overall, compliments on appearance can have serious consequences and perpetuate harmful beliefs about body image. It’s important to be mindful of our words and their impact on others, especially those most vulnerable to body-related comments.
