
Trying to explain divorce to your kids? Here’s a script that may be helpful. It’s important to reassure them and let them know that everything will be okay.
Key Points to Remember:
– Repetition is okay, kids like reassurance.
– Speak slowly and give them time to absorb the information.
– It’s okay if the conversation doesn’t go exactly as planned. You will have many more opportunities to talk about it.
Sample Script:
Honest Explanation: Explain that while Mommy and Daddy love them, they realized they are better as co-parents than as a married couple.
Adult Decision: Reassure them that the divorce is between Mommy and Daddy and has nothing to do with them. They are not responsible for it.
We’re Still a Family: Emphasize that they will still have both parents and that things will be okay.
Things Will Stay the Same: Let them know that certain aspects of their lives will remain unchanged.
Understanding Feelings: Encourage them to share their feelings and let them know it’s normal to feel a range of emotions.
You Can Love Us Both: Assure them that they can love both parents without feeling disloyal.
After the conversation, be prepared for questions and provide support as needed. Consider creating a safe space for them to express their feelings.
Remember, it’s a process, and with time, things will get easier for everyone involved.
Feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comments. Sending love to all who may need it. xoxoxo
(Illustration by Abbey Lossing for Cup of Jo.)