Joan provides advice to a reader whose husband’s porn habit seems to have replaced her in their marriage. The reader, who has been married for 48 years and faced health issues that led to decreased intimacy, discovered her husband’s secret porn use. While she struggles with feelings of betrayal and mistrust, Joan suggests that the issue may not be solely about porn but also about communication and understanding within the relationship. She recommends seeking couples therapy and adjusting expectations around sex, especially in the face of age-related challenges. Ultimately, exploring alternative forms of sexual satisfaction and improving communication could help the couple reconnect.