We often overlook the significance of platonic connections in favor of romantic and familial bonds. However, forming deep friendships can be transformative and profoundly impactful. Anna Goldfarb, author of Modern Friendship, notes that friendships are unique because they are voluntary, unlike familial or romantic relationships. This voluntary aspect, while special, also makes friendships vulnerable.
Recent data shows that the time people spend with friends in real life has significantly decreased, leading to a decline in close friendships and a rise in loneliness. There are societal factors contributing to this shift, such as the rise of digital communication and hustle culture. These societal changes have made deep social connections more challenging.
Even for those who make time for in-person hangouts, there is often a hesitancy to delve into deeper conversations that foster close friendships. Brittane Rowe, co-founder of the conversation game Hella Awkward, acknowledges that deep conversations require effort and vulnerability, which can be overshadowed by the demands of everyday life.
However, despite the challenges, the benefits of deep friendships are worth the effort. Experts emphasize the importance of asking deep questions to foster strong platonic connections. Vulnerability in conversations can lead to stronger bonds, feelings of belonging, and lessened loneliness. While deep topics of conversation often arise naturally over time, it can be helpful to have conversation starters on hand.
As you seek to strengthen your friendships, especially after a period of disconnection, consider asking your friends deep questions. Experts suggest 85 thought-provoking questions that can lead to engaging and meaningful conversations and help you truly get to know your friends. These questions touch on past experiences, daily life, and relationships, and can help you foster deeper connections with your friends.
