Understanding Nervous System Privilege
Comparing trauma loads can be tricky, as it should not diminish anyone’s experiences. When individuals with varying trauma burdens try to connect, differences can arise. Those with lower trauma burdens may find it easier to establish boundaries and maintain closeness due to healthier relationships in their past.
It’s essential for individuals with boundary issues stemming from childhood trauma to seek help and learn healthy boundaries to prevent perpetuating harmful behaviors. The concept of “nervous system privilege” comes into play when individuals with significantly different ACE scores attempt to navigate relationships.
Without clear boundaries and equal power dynamics, intimacy can become enmeshed or lacking in true connection. Setting boundaries is crucial for safe, loving relationships that allow for individual growth and mutual respect.
Healing past attachment wounds and trauma is possible, as our nervous systems are adaptable. Whether you’re single or in a relationship struggling with attachment issues, addressing these traumas can pave the way for healthier connections.
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