I have a strong aversion to platitudes, especially when they are directed towards mental illness. It is patronizing when people offer simple solutions and claim it will solve everything. It is sanctimonious when they criticize your perspective or approach based on a cliched phrase. Platitudes are not only unhelpful in general, but they are particularly ineffective for individuals dealing with mental illness, such as bipolar disorder. Here’s why people need to refrain from using platitudes when interacting with those who have mental health challenges (and perhaps in all interactions).
Recent Platitudes Aimed at My Mental Illness
Recently, someone shared this well-intended platitude with me on social media:
“Perhaps you’ve been assigned this mountain to show others that it can be moved.”
I responded with a simple, “I doubt it,” acknowledging my humility.
The response was another platitude:
“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. Keep believing, keep striving, and let your actions prove the doubts wrong.”
Thus, a double dose of platitudes targeted at my mental illness.
Why People Should Avoid Using Platitudes for Mental Illness
When individuals offer platitudes for mental illness, several factors may be at play:
- Belief that platitudes are beneficial, often influenced by popular culture or self-help trends.
- Assumption that what worked for them will work for others.
- Desire to appear intelligent by quoting wise-sounding phrases.
- Awkwardness in addressing a serious topic, leading to reliance on cliches.
In most cases, the intention behind using platitudes is not malicious. People may genuinely believe they are offering support, unaware of the complexities of mental illness and the insufficiency of simplistic solutions.
While the individual who shared those platitudes with me meant well, the delivery came across as condescending and unhelpful.
The Flaws of Platitudes for Mental Illness
I am skeptical about the effectiveness of platitudes in general and especially when it comes to mental illness.
Fortune cookie wisdom often overlooks the realities of living with a mental health condition. Statements like, “You can achieve anything if you try hard enough,” fail to acknowledge the significant barriers faced by individuals with disabilities.
Additionally, platitudes tend to dictate how one should think and act, dismissing the unique experiences and challenges of each individual. This undermines personal growth and invalidates the complexity of one’s journey.
People with mental illness deserve support that goes beyond superficial sayings. We deserve genuine understanding and empathy.
Avoid Platitudes, Try This Instead
While some quotes and platitudes may hold nuggets of wisdom, a more meaningful approach is to engage in open dialogue.
Instead of simply reciting a platitude, share why it resonates with you personally and initiate a conversation on its relevance. This allows individuals with mental illness to express their thoughts and feelings on the matter.
Alternatively, communicate your thoughts in your own words from a place of authenticity. Your words do not need to be brief to make an impact.
Lastly, be receptive to feedback and acknowledge the differences in experiences. Accept that what resonates with you may not necessarily resonate with someone dealing with mental illness. Respect their perspective and refrain from imposing simplistic solutions.
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