The constant flow of alcohol through social settings, both public and private, has started to decrease in recent years thanks to the sober-curious movement. According to a 2024 survey of 1,000 people conducted by advertising firm NC Solutions, 41 percent of Americans planned to drink less this year, up from 34 percent in 2023. Gallup data collected over the past decade has also shown that young Americans (ages 18 to 34) are increasingly less likely to drink or do so frequently. This shift can make it easier to navigate an alcohol-free lifestyle if you’re in recovery from alcohol use disorder (AUD).
Even though societal attitudes towards not drinking are changing, talking about your sobriety can still feel daunting. Deciding not to drink is different from managing long-term recovery from alcohol misuse, which can be stigmatized. It’s common to fear judgment, scrutiny, rejection, or a lack of understanding and acceptance when discussing your sobriety.
Sarah Elder, LCSW, CADC, a certified alcohol and drug counselor at Cook County Health, advises that not knowing how loved ones will react can be nerve-wracking. Keeping your alcohol or substance misuse a secret can also lead to feelings of shame and anxiety. This, coupled with the behavioral changes that come with intoxication, may further isolate you from the support of the people who care about you.
Learning how to talk about your sobriety with friends and loved ones is essential for reducing shame and supporting your recovery. Open dialogues about sobriety can lead to increased compassion and empathy, ultimately normalizing the topic.
Being open with loved ones about your challenges with substance misuse and recovery can lead to improved relationships and increased support. Marsha Stone, a licensed chemical dependency counselor, notes that sharing your story can bring immediate relief, mental clarity, emotional peace, and a sense of pride.
When talking to your loved ones about sobriety, be thoughtful about whom you choose to open up to. Consider using pod mapping to evaluate who in your network can provide safe and supportive environments for these conversations. Prepare what you want to say in advance and determine how much information you feel comfortable disclosing. Remember, you are not obligated to share your entire sobriety journey with anyone.
Talking about your sobriety may differ depending on the individual and the relationship. Some conversations may happen spontaneously, while others may require more planning. Be honest about your journey and set boundaries around what you are willing to disclose. Seek support from a trusted friend, partner, or recovery ally to facilitate or join you in the conversation. By sharing your story, you can strengthen relationships, gain support, and alleviate the burden of hiding your struggles.
