We can’t escape the omnipresent news stories that highlight the abuse of power and how it is wreaking havoc on our world. As I tap into meditative states and envision a future for my daughter, I can’t help but see how power dynamics have always been at play in human existence. With the exception of a few Indigenous communities untouched by colonization and genocide, it seems that those descended from colonizers and oppressors believe that seizing power at any cost and holding onto it tightly is the key to success in life.
Power and privilege often go hand in hand. When someone possesses multiple privileges – such as being white, male, heterosexual, cisgender, able-bodied, financially well-off, educated, and conventionally attractive – they wield a significant amount of power in society, much of which may be unearned. While some forms of power may be earned through hard work, the reality is that even these achievements are not purely based on merit. As someone with a graduate degree and a talent I’ve dedicated countless hours to, I am acutely aware that my success is also influenced by the privileges I was born with, such as not being male or fitting societal beauty standards.
Reflecting on this, I am troubled by the inherent unfairness of the power game, even as I benefit from it. The disparities in privileges shape our paths in life, making it easier for some to achieve success while others face steep obstacles. As I write this overlooking the Atlantic Ocean from a modest motor lodge, I can’t help but contrast it with the opulent luxury of the $1000/night hotel nearby. The ease with which I move through this space, unchallenged and accepted, highlights the stark inequities that exist.
The notion of a zero-sum game underscores the problematic nature of the pursuit of power. This dynamic is apparent at every level, from internal struggles within ourselves to power dynamics in relationships and systems of oppression that perpetuate inequalities. Even as individuals like myself and my partner, who have achieved success by societal standards, may be deemed “winners,” the emptiness and lack of joy that I observe around me raises questions about the true value of this form of success.
As I witness the hedonically adapted wealthy individuals in this luxury setting, devoid of genuine joy and fulfillment, I am reminded of my time among the Q’eros tribe in Peru. The boundless laughter and genuine connections I experienced with them contrast sharply with the superficiality and lack of warmth I encounter here. The fleeting nature of material acquisition in bringing lasting happiness is a concept explored by happiness researchers, pointing to the limitations of pursuing power and wealth as a means of fulfillment.
In a society where the pursuit of power is ingrained from childhood, the pressure to acquire power and privileges is pervasive. Men and women may seek different forms of power, but the underlying drive to attain it remains strong. The societal ideals of success – wealth, status, and external validation – perpetuate a culture focused on material gain and social status, leaving many “winners” feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned.
As I contemplate the notion of playing the wrong game altogether, I am struck by the superficiality and emptiness that often accompany the pursuit of power and status. The time spent among the Q’eros and the genuine connections I formed with them serve as a stark reminder of the true essence of joy and fulfillment that transcends material wealth and power. Perhaps it’s time to reconsider the game we’re playing and strive for a more meaningful and equitable existence.
