Despite believing that everyone deserves it, I have a strong aversion to self-compassion. The idea of being kind to myself feels counterintuitive and goes against the inner drill sergeant in my head that drives me to keep going despite my struggles. So why do I hate self-compassion, and is there a chance that I might reconsider?
Understanding Self-Compassion
Self-compassion, as defined by Kristin Neff, involves being kind to oneself, accepting fallibility as part of the human experience, and holding painful thoughts in mindful awareness. While this concept may seem fluffy and uncomplicated, it challenges the notion of toughness and resilience ingrained in many of us.
The Inner Drill Sergeant
My inner drill sergeant, fueled by the need to push through pain and illness, often clashes with the idea of self-compassion. This relentless voice in my head propels me to keep going, even when rest and kindness are what I truly need. While it serves a purpose in keeping me productive, it leaves little room for self-compassion.
The Battle Against Self-Compassion
Self-compassion can feel like a hindrance to my survival and success. The idea of slowing down, showing kindness, and allowing rest seems like a luxury I can’t afford. Despite knowing the benefits of self-compassion, I struggle to incorporate it into my daily life, choosing instead to listen to my inner critic.
Reconsidering Self-Compassion
Upon exploring the science and myths surrounding self-compassion, I am beginning to question my aversion to it. While my inner drill sergeant remains strong, I am open to reevaluating my approach to self-compassion and incorporating aspects of kindness and understanding into my life.
Despite the challenges posed by my inner critic, I am willing to explore the possibilities of self-compassion and its potential benefits on my well-being and productivity. It’s a journey of self-discovery and growth that I am willing to embark on, even if it means challenging my long-held beliefs.
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