Whether you’ve learned about it on TikTok or from a friend, the word “narcissist” seems to be everywhere these days. But did you know that there are actually nine different types of narcissists, one of which is the malignant narcissist? This extreme form of narcissism is characterized by a strong sense of entitlement and self-importance. According to licensed psychologist Scott Lyons, DO, malignant narcissists will do whatever it takes to get what they want, without concern for who they harm in the process.
While not officially recognized in the DSM-5, malignant narcissism is seen more as a personality type rather than a mental health disorder. However, it is important to be aware of the signs of malignant narcissism in a relationship, as being involved with someone who exhibits these traits can be harmful. Experts like Natalie Jambazian, LMFT, and Nicholette Leanza, LPCC-S, warn of the cruelty, manipulation, and exploitation that often come with this type of narcissism.
In a relationship with a malignant narcissist, you may experience gaslighting, manipulative tactics like love-bombing, and devaluation. The four stages of narcissistic abuse, including idealization, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering, can leave you feeling emotionally drained and manipulated. Childhood trauma, certain parenting styles, brain abnormalities, and increased oxidative stress are all believed to contribute to the development of malignant narcissism.
The effects of being in a relationship with a malignant narcissist can be traumatic and toxic. According to Leanza, the relationship itself is toxic due to the toxic nature of the narcissist. This type of narcissism can have severe impacts on your mental and emotional well-being. It is essential to recognize the signs and seek support if you find yourself in a relationship with a malignant narcissist.
