In movies, sociopaths are often wrongly depicted as violent criminals, but the reality of the disorder is much more complex. Patric Gagne, a therapist, wife, and mother of two in Los Angeles, recently penned a compelling memoir shedding light on what it truly means to be a sociopath. In a phone interview, she shared her thoughts on the misconceptions surrounding sociopathy, her upbringing, and her inclination towards breaking societal norms.
Patric emphasized that sociopaths are capable of feeling primary emotions like happiness, sadness, and anger, but struggle with understanding and expressing social emotions such as empathy, guilt, and shame. She referred to sociopathy as an ’emotional learning disability,’ explaining that these emotions are learned differently by sociopaths.
Contrary to popular belief, not all sociopaths are violent criminals like Ted Bundy or Jeffrey Dahmer. Such extreme cases represent only a small fraction of individuals with the disorder, but unfortunately, they have become the face of sociopathy in society. This misrepresentation has led to widespread stigma and fear towards all sociopaths.
Patric highlighted the importance of early intervention for children who may exhibit signs of an ’emotional learning disability.’ By openly discussing behaviors and emphasizing social norms, parents can help these children navigate societal expectations and develop a sense of morality.
Reflecting on her own experiences, Patric shared how as a child, she often felt apathy towards emotions and engaged in risky behaviors to alleviate stress and boredom. She compared these compulsions to those associated with OCD and found solace in implementing strategies used to manage obsessive behaviors.
Despite her challenges with emotions, Patric emphasized that sociopaths can still lead fulfilling lives by relying on logic and reason to guide their moral compass. She emphasized the importance of societal norms and laws in making ethical decisions, even without the presence of traditional emotions like guilt and shame.
Patric’s memoir delves into her unique perspective as a sociopath, touching on her struggles with love and emotional connections. Through her story, she hopes to challenge stereotypes and foster understanding of individuals with sociopathic traits.
